Part of my current role involves training the new PBS instructors for the county special schools. This is a great opportunity to ensure a consistent approach between schools but also to learn from and share experiences with a range of really positive and passionate educators from across Kent. One of the benefits of conducting training is once you acknowledge you are not an expert lecturing, but a guide you get to really engage in the issues we need to tackle in our schools.
One of the areas we discussed was the importance of being aware of our emotional state. This becomes critical when faced with challenging situations as our reactions will in the majority of cases determine the outcome of the situation. It is also essential that as role models working with young people and vulnerable children we can control these emotions.
Now despite leading the training, and you will know this if you have ever been on a course with me I will never claim to have all the answers. When you sit in a room with a group of professionals there is a huge potential for sharing of practical ideas. So I wrote our ideas down on a card and will summarise our top tips for maintaining control of your emotions below.
The key aspect that joins all of these strategies is the need for staff to feel supported within the school especially by SLT. I have broken them down into three sections:
- Baseline (Proactive)
- During (Active/Reactive)
- After (Reflect/Relax)
I hope you find some of these helpful and I would love it if you could add your thoughts and tips in the comments section.
- Surround yourself with a supportive team/colleagues.
- Access to good training.
- Teacher 5 a day (If you haven’t heard of this see Martyn’s Blog)
- Thank you cards from leadership
- Readdress priorities – Is the worksheet really that important?
- Be confident in your approach.
- Move away – give the child (and yourself) some breathing/thinking space.
- Assess your feelings and acknowledge when you need to swap.
- Give yourself time out before responding – 3 deep breaths.
- Humour – allow yourself to laugh can deescalate situation.
- Remember it’s not the end of the world.
- Opportunity to vent feelings
- Non-judgemental debrief
- Rebuild relationship with positive activity.
- Recognise when you or colleagues need support (Yes you as well SLT!)
- The Chocolate drawer – (this is genius).
- Go for a walk.